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What No One Tells You About Recovering From Spiritual Abuse
The journey is likely one of the most isolating. But I wouldn’t change it for the world. I will also note that it does not affect everyone the same, but for those like me who deeply cared about doing right by God, were also deeply hurt along the journey of seeking more of God, only to find more confusion.
The pain, for me, was quite unbearable at times. I was so sure that in reading more, praying more, seeking more, I would find more. In the end, I found myself quite shocked that all I knew was fizzling away faster than I could grasp at the time.
I wanted so deeply for what I had learned all my life to be right.. to make sense. However, I never found myself there. Then came the journey of learning something new to replace what I once knew: a new version of myself. This was the last place I thought my journey would lead me.
While I am grateful, it was also challenging.
I had found myself having to unlearn my judgement impulse. As a Christian, it was a necessity to be “in”. As someone deconstructing, it became incredibly difficult to rationalize the harsh judgements I once had towards anyone who was “out” of the church lifestyle/mentality.
I found myself having to unlearn fear. It is still something I am working on. However, something I was not…
